Feeling invisible in midlife and beyond is, unfortunately, not uncommon. Aging is especially hard for us women, particularly as you hit menopause. The fact is that we, as women, are held to certain standards. You probably put a lot of value on your appearance and body. even if you don’t realize it.
And the changes that we go through as we age aren’t necessarily easy to deal with. It’s not fair that we as women are made to feel this way, but it does nonetheless trigger feeling invisible. But you don’t have to put up with that. You can take steps to ensure that you’re feeling confident and important as you approach the middle of your life. Let’s look at some of the best steps you can take to fight feeling invisible midlife!
1. Pick Up A Hobby
This may sound cliché, but there’s a good bit of truth behind the purported benefits of taking up new interests and hobbies as you grow older. It doesn’t necessarily matter what the hobby is either. You could take on painting, sculpting, or even pick up a new language. Either way, these steps will help you exercise your brain and provide a creative or intellectual outlet. Not only will it keep you busy, but it’ll also allow you to learn more about yourself.
2. Keep Working…A Little Bit
Our careers often align with our passion and interests, so why not keep working? Now before you start thinking I’m crazy, hear me out. By no means do you have to keep working at the same job you’ve always had or at the same hours you’ve always had, but you can still share what you know. As you near retirement, see how you can use your years of experience and numerous skill-sets to help others (and make money). Consulting and/or teaching are great ways to stay social, scale back your hours, and maintain your professional life.
3. Work It Out
Of course, this may depend on your health, but you should definitely try to get your daily dose of exercise. Keep hitting the gym consistently, and you’ll be amazed by what your body can do. The fact is that working out consistently is also a great social opportunity if you go to your local gym. It can also function as a way for you to feel more empowered. Feel free to switch up your tactics as well! Don’t just focus on your cardio; consider taking up kickboxing, or even a martial art. Doing so will make you physically stronger, and a big part of fighting feeling invisible is faking it until you make it. Believe in your relevance, and it will exist.
4. Try Dating To Stop Feeling Invisible
This is relevant whether or not you’re single; and no, that doesn’t mean what you may think it does! If you’re married or committed to someone, don’t neglect your romantic relationship with them. Don’t forget to carve out time for regular dates, as well as emotional intimacy. Treat your partner like they’re special, and ask the same of them.
Of course, if you’re single, it may feel more difficult to get out in the dating field in middle age. Fortunately, some dating sites and apps cater specifically to us. Whether you’re embarking on a fresh romance or reigniting the spark in your marriage, investing in your dating life is a great way to keep yourself from feeling invisible by forming connections with others.
5. Check In On Your Mental Health
Therapy. Maybe you’ve tried it before, and maybe you haven’t. Maybe you’ll need it, and maybe you won’t. But you don’t have to be depressed or anxious to go to therapy; sometimes it’s a great way to check in on yourself before anything gets out of hand. Take care of yourself and consider trying it out. Many therapists today specialize in working with menopausal or post-menopausal women. Being proactive means that you’ll be less likely to feel truly low.
Yes, our society is obsessed with youth. But you don’t have to be. Your contributions to the world are even more valuable now than in your twenties, and you’ve got a lot left to give. Create a relevant life for yourself, and you will be relevant.
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By Jessica Thomas, MPH